1. If you are currently with a guy or are trying to hook up with a guy, please don't talk about your past relationship or ex. When you tell a guy you're still good friends with an ex, it translates to, “We still hook up occasionally.” He does not need to hear about how great your ex was; it's just not a good conversation starter.
2. Don't try and step between a guy and his buddies. They've been there for him probably longer than you have, so don't try and take him away from his friends. It's okay to want to spend time with him, but there is such a thing as too much. Let him hang out with his friends when he wants to. Give him his space and time to be with his friends.
3. Don't go through a guy's stuff. Guys don't like it when they find out their girl is snooping around. If you're entitled to your privacy, then a guy is entitled to his. He shouldn't have to tell you anything he feels you don't need to know.
4. There needs to be trust. If you feel or think something, just say it; we are not mind readers.
5. Guys aren't as perverted as girls make them out to be. Girls think that all guys are the same. The only thing on their mind, 24/7, is sex. Not true – there are many other things that guys think about besides sex. There's school, sports, video games, and….well, I guess that's about it.
6. What's wrong with giving up compliments every now and then? It's nice to be complimented on the way you look or something every now and then. Why should it be us who always sends flowers? Sending a guy flowers would be a good thing. It lets him know that you love him and that will make his day any day. Guys like to feel appreciated for the things they do for a girl.
7. Believe it when a guy tells you something; don't take it the wrong way. He would not call you beautiful if he didn't think you were. If he calls you beautiful, take it, don't argue about it. If he says you're not fat, BELIEVE him. On a related note, don't tie us up in knots. None of the, “Do you think I'm fat?” or the occasional, “Is she hot?” It's a no-win situation for us and you know it, so don't set us up to fail.
8. When a guy does something wrong, girls expect an apology. The same thing applies for us guys. Just because you think you're always right doesn't mean you don't have to apologize when you do something wrong. An all out apology is not needed, just admit you're wrong and move on; don't keep arguing about it.
9. If a guy offers to pay the bill, LET him. He wants to pay for it. Don't get out of hand, it's only a bill – let him do it if he wants to. Although, it would be nice for a girl to at least offer to do it. It lets him know that she's not using him for his money. However, if he makes you pay, then find another man.
10. If you like a guy, tell him. Guys would like to be asked out too. It's nice when a girl takes the initiative to ask a guy out. It lets us know you're interested and loosens the tension. Also, don't play mid games with us if you want us to ask you out.
Also, a very important side note: I do not know how many times guys need to say this, but being kicked below the belt HURTS! There is never an occasion where it is right to kick a guy there. Seriously, it's not funny. If you're mad, slap him, hit him, scream at him, but NEVER under any circumstance, do you kick him below the belt. That's just dirty play.
James Nguyen is a student at Garden Grove High School.
